Family Life, Parenting

Parenting Corner: Raising Resilient Children

By Lisa Phillips
May 16, 2019

“Love the child you have, not the one you thought you’d have.”

A child’s resilience to disappointments isn’t always a personality trait. Sometimes, it needs to be nurtured and encouraged.

This past spring, tales of a college-entrance cheating scandal exploded in the media. Famous and wealthy families spent large amounts of money on schemes to change test scores, falsify athletic accomplishments, and bribe college coaches.

The saga is so fascinating, not only because of what it reveals about college admissions, but because it’s not hard to imagine a parent’s motivation behind wanting to give their children whatever advantages they can in the world.

Apparently, some of these college-bound teenagers were unaware of what their parents were up to. What must it feel like to find out that your mom or dad had such little faith in both your ability to navigate the admission process and to cope with disappointment?

While most of us would not condone the actions of the parents in this particular scenario, it’s sometimes difficult to know where to draw the line in terms of how much help parents should give their children. Certainly, parents want to support their child’s growth and development, but too much assistance can actually hinder it.

Resilience, the ability to “bounce back” and to cope with life’s setbacks and challenges is perhaps the greatest gift we can teach our children. But it’s one that money, privilege, and overindulgence may actually inhibit.

How to foster resiliency:

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