Mar 16, 2020
Kids come with a lot of questions. Now that the consistency of a school schedule is gone, for now, they might have even more questions. The Parenting Center at Children’s Hospital, New Orleans, has some helpful advice for tackling this difficult situation.
What is coronavirus? Why is school closed? When can I see my friends again?
Although grown-ups don’t have all the answers, they can tell their children what they do know about coronavirus, and they can do it without alarming them.
“Information is everywhere, and at this point, the kids have heard a lot about coronavirus,” said Jenni Evans, a parent educator for the Parenting Center at Children’s Hospital. “Some of it is very helpful, and some of it is a little too scary, and some of it’s not even true.”
Evans said the first step is to ask your child what they already know, so you can identify a starting point for the conversation. Then share an honest, factual and age-appropriate message.
“We’re not going to say to kids, ‘Oh, there’s nothing to worry about.’ But we’re also not going to say, ‘This is really serious,’ ” Evans explained. “You have to keep your child’s temperament in mind. If you have a child that tends to worry, they are going to need more factual information and fewer scary adjectives.”
Tell younger children that there is a “strong germ going around,” and encourage them to be extra diligent about practicing healthy habits and hygiene, Evans suggested. Shore up their safety by reminding them that you — the caregiver — are prepared and open to questions, and that this is temporary.
Parents should keep in mind that “anxiety is very contagious,” said Dr. Diane Franz, a child psychologist at Children’s Hospital New Orleans. “It’s important for parents to get their own anxiety under control, or at least fake it in front of their children if they are feeling anxious, because that will very much be communicated to their children, and that will increase everyone’s anxiety.”
Franz encourages parents to take a break from the news and focus on the specific things they are doing to keep themselves and their families safe. If you can remain calm and optimistic, your children will feel a lot more comfortable, she said.
“Expect anxiety,” said Franz. “This is an unprecedented new time for all of us.”
Consistency is Key
In an effort to stop the spread of coronavirus, Gov. John Bel Edwards ordered a monthlong shutdown of public and parochial schools throughout the state. Some institutions will shift to online learning programs, so that students can study from home. Still, the isolation and the dramatic change in routine will be difficult for children.
“Rather than throwing your hands in the air and going on vacation mode, think about rituals, transitions and routines that you can keep consistent,” said Evans. “Consistency is really important for people, especially for children who are feeling stressed out.”
“Do sensory and active play every day,” said Evans. This may include water play for toddlers and crafts with older children.
“Each day, have some together time that is mutually engaging and fun — whether that’s drawing, watching a movie, or taking a walk,” she added. “Don’t get buried in screens because that won’t work for very long. And we’ve got quite a few weeks ahead of us.”
Although The Parenting Center has closed because of coronavirus, staff members are still available to answer questions and offer parenting advice. Visit chnola.org/the-parenting-center or call 504.896.9591 for more information.